I wish I could help you in some sort of way. I really feel for you and the negativity that you are experiencing. It's easy for me to say 'keep positive' or 'push the negativity out of your life', but at the end of the day my forum post can't jump out of the screen and do anything for you. The only person that can do anything about your situation is you. You sound like a good person with good intentions that has been caught up in a whirlwind of drama's that you cannot escape. I can assure you that you are not the only one that goes through this. Yelling and screaming with your loved ones will destroy your love and happiness, therefore it needs to be avoided at all costs. I have been caught up in this before myself, but I try to catch myself in these situations and consciously tell myself to just stop, shut up and that I can't always be 'right' or the 'winner' in an argument. I am not implying that this is how your behaving, but from my many experiences with arguing there usually is a problem on both ends, as arguing can only happen if there is a response to someone instigating negativity.
I almost lost my relationship with my parents and partner as a result of our ego's and constant arguing, it was a nightmare and a very dark sad period of my life. I couldn't take it anymore as I was literally drained emotionally and I only felt things were snowballing and getting worse. I started having issues with work my real estate agent, money, you name it everything was f*cked. All I could think of was, 'what did I do to deserve this shitty life?', as I felt this was an ongoing battle since my childhood. I can't remember exactly what happened, but something in my head clicked when I was thinking about it all and becoming more aware of the situation. It was time for a change, I pushed the bad feelings out and just started to concentrate on the small things that were going well in life. I lived near the beach, surely that was a good thing, so I started to go for little bike rides and I would invite my partner along. If they didn't want to go, then no big deal I would just go on my own for 10 minutes. I used the air in my face while riding to clear my thoughts and just think about peddling, I started exercising, I changed my diet and I felt better for it. It was hard to get motivated, but once I did it was easy. Then we had an opportunity to move house, it could have been a negative thing, but instead I thought of it as a new beginning and moved to the country side. Sure I drive hours to get to work, but it's worth it to live where I live! Since then my relationships have healed and I couldn't be any happier. The only thing that I get upset about now is seeing other people struggle.
Now I'm not saying this is what you should do, but I guess I'm trying to highlight what a big difference your frame of mind can make on your life, it's far more stronger than you realise. STOP FEARING THE 11'S AND CONNECTING IT With negativity. Sorry for the caps, the caps lock turned on without me pressing, I may have inadvertently pressed it, but it was definitely not deliberate. I left it because I don't think that things always happen by chance and perhaps this was an important thing to be highlighted.
I think I will leave my post as it is, as I could go on forever.